This is Why Your Inner Child is Wrecking Your Life
the Relationship between Love, Money & Your Inner Child
All of us have an Inner Child. This is a part of our basic personality that will always need protection and may feel insecure, shy, needy or fearful.
Our Inner Child is intimately connected to our Primal Brain- this part of our more ancient animalistic brain responds to potential or current threat with the famous “Fight, Flight, Freeze” response.
This is a normal part of being human, but is extremely misunderstood and unappreciated in how much it affects our day-to-day behavior, reactions and choices.
The big challenge with the Inner Child is that most of us repress, ignore, shame or deny this vulnerable part of ourselves, or expect and demand that others provide this support in order for us to feel safe, happy, and in control. Incredibly, many of us are actually allowing the Inner Child to direct our love lives, and other primary relationships as well as our relationship to money and finances.
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A healthy relationship with our Inner Child nourishes our basic need for safety and belonging. It is our own self-love, presence and acceptance that supports and heals this vulnerable part of ourselves.
When we know how to care for our Inner Child we can enjoy deep experiences of wonder, playfulness, joy and exploration and connect with our deepest passions and relationships in a heartfelt way. We are more emotionally resilient and are able to spring back from negative situations and potential threats that may normally overwhelm or freeze us with indecision and fear.
We are unaware that we have mistakenly given our Inner Child the proverbial car keys and forced responsibility to run these central areas of our adult life where no child should need to be in charge.
Would you allow a 5 year old to drive a car? Be in charge of your sex life? Be responsible for paying your bills and navigating your career choices or financial future? Many of us have no idea that this is exactly who is running the show in these key parts of our life. It is no wonder that so many of us are paralyzed with insecurity and feel blocked in these areas.
This is one of the key areas that I help support my clients when we work together.
Building a healthy and integrated relationship with our Inner Child gives us the ability to be incredibly brave and authentic in expressing our unique gifts in life and take creative risks. When we learn to create an environment of inner safety and resilience, we can choose to exist with a sense of unshakable, deep presence while allowing the lightness of our Inner Child to bring play, humor and bliss into our lives!
If you are curious about exploring YOUR inner child, please contact me when you are ready to get back the car keys to your life:)
